It Starts Today

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When will they stop? When will the voices stop screaming inside my head:

You’re not smart enough for that promotion

You’re not thin enough to get into those jeans

You’re not good enough to be happy

After some time, you tell yourself that you don’t care anymore, but you do care – I care! You ask yourself: “When are you going to be OK? When are you going to accept and love yourself for who you are?

I’ve been trying to lose five pounds for the last 30 years. Uh, maybe more like 15 pounds now. Every time I try to zip up those pants it’s a blatant reminder that my body is changing. And once again I beat myself up – And boy, am I really good at that.

So, I ask you again: When are you going to be ok?


That’s the answer. I’m going to be ok TODAY! I’ve wasted enough time worrying about things that don’t really matter and I’ve had enough. Would I like to change some things about myself? Absolutely. But I’ve also come to realize that I’m good just the way I am right now. That I am happy for all the dents and flaws I’ve earned over the years. So I declare, right now, that today is the day I begin to love myself the way I am. When will you begin?

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9 Out of 10 Factor

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So here’s the third lesson in this series on surviving the challenges that life sometimes throws your way.

This technique I actually learned from a movie.  It helped me develop a positive attitude so I could rebuild my confidence and believe in myself once again.

Have you ever seen the movie Miracle on Ice?   It’s a true story about the 1980 winter Olympics.  At that time, the men’s US hockey team was competing against the Soviet Union.  They needed to beat the Soviet Union to ultimately win the gold medal.  Now, at that time, the US team didn’t have the money or the facilities to match the Soviet Union, who had already won several gold medals in previous Olympic Games.   The Soviet Union was favored to win, hands down.

As I was watching this movie, there was a scene where the US coach, Herb Brooks, was in the locker room with his team.  He looked at them and said: “9 out of 10 times, they will win, but not today.”

That one line made me sit up and take notice.  I loved it!  So I filed it in my memory for future use.

Now, at that time in my life, I was looking for a job.  I had just landed an interview for a management position with Bloomingdales in Chicago.  I had management experience, but never in retail.  So before the interview, I researched and prepared everything I could on the position and the company.   I was totally ready.

Then, on the day of the interview, I walked in,  looked around, and noticed that I was surrounded by my competition.  Everybody, and I do mean everybody, was a lot younger than me and had a lot more experience in retail.

That’s when my inner voice kicked in and started pecking away at me.  You know what I mean.

I started telling myself: “Nancy, you’re never going to get this job.  You’re too old.  You don’t have enough experience.”  And I started all that self doubt in my own head.

And that’s when I remembered that phrase from the movie.   I stopped, looked around at my competition and I said to myself: “9 out of 10 times, they will get the job, but not today.”

I went into that interview with so much confidence they couldn’t help but hire me.  Now, did that one phrase alone get me the job? No!  But I’ll tell you what it did do – it gave me the confidence to walk into that room and give the best interview I could possibly give.  I didn’t doubt myself or allow anyone else to doubt my ability.  I didn’t give my power to somebody else.  I had control.

So, you never know when that one line can help – maybe you’re going to an interview, getting ready for a presentation, or facing a family gathering.  Whenever you find yourself in a situation where negative thoughts are coming from your own head, or from other people surrounding you, stop, and tell yourself:

“ 9 out of 10 times that will happen, but not today.”

It will help change your mindset so you can believe in yourself once again.  It sure helped me.

Stay tuned next week for another life lesson learned.

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Having the Courage to Believe in Yourself

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UGH!!! Here we go again!

Summer is here. My closet is filled with the cutest summer outfits EVER. And I can’t find anything to wear. I’ve gained enough weight over the winter that I can’t fit into any of them.

It seems like I’m constantly saying “no” to all those tempting sweets, but the scale on my bathroom floor says otherwise.

How could I let this happen? Why don’t I have more self-control?? I hate the way I look!!!


If I start feeling this way about myself, I open the door to let others see me this way. I allow others to doubt my confidence and my belief in myself.

It’s time to flip the switch. It’s time to start over again, take control, and tell myself that “today will be a better day”.

So I sit up straight, take a deep breath, and recommit to my goal for today. Whether it’s doing a better job at the office, finding more time for the ones I love, or figuring out how to fit into those white jeans in the next couple of weeks. I will look at the bright side and tell myself “I can do this”. And just as important, I will find the courage to ask others for help when I need it.

It was Mary Anne Radmacher who said: “Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying: I will try again tomorrow”.

What does your tomorrow look like?

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Make This Your Most Extraordinary Year Ever

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I just heard about this new idea that sounded fabulous to me. It’s supposed to help you through those times when, for whatever reason, you  begin to doubt yourself.  You ask questions like:

“Can I really do this? Am I good enough?”

I’ve been there so many times – when my confidence was shaken to the core, so I decided to try this new idea, and I’d like to share it with you.

Here is it:

Get a brand new, shiny notebook and title it: ALL ABOUT ME

That’s right – a notebook that showcases your accomplishments throughout your life. It could be that time you:


Made the basket ball team or the cheerleading squad

Got that promotion or started your own business

Volunteered to help a stranger – or a friend


Whatever it is, dedicate a page to it in your new notebook. Maybe you have an article that was written about you, a photograph, or a card someone sent you.

Do your best to create a visual of all your accomplishments, and put them into this notebook, telling the “story of you”. You are the main character!

Then, on those days when you are faced with a challenge and you tell yourself: “I just can’t do this”, pull out that notebook and look through it. Reflect on all those times you epitomized leadership, confidence, determination, and a host of other qualities.

Know that those same traits are inside you right now. You already have all the tools you need to accomplish anything you set your mind to, and this book is a reminder of just how far you have come.

I spent all day yesterday creating my own “Book About Me”, and I am pretty proud of all that I’ve accomplished. I truly feel like I can conquer the world.  And the next time I begin to doubt myself, I know that this will help me to stop, take a deep breath, and continue to move forward to experience my most extraordinary year ever!

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Unleash Your Self-Confidence


What do Oprah Winfrey, Jerry Seinfeld and J.K. Rowling all have in common?

They were all fired from their jobs!!! And they all had their self-confidence shaken to the core.

Sound familiar? Have you ever had your confidence shaken – or lost your belief in yourself? I know I have, and I’ve struggled many times to rebuild it and get back on track again. And you know what? Each time I learn a little more about myself and I get a LOT stronger.

So the next time you find that the “no’s” in your life are taking over:

No, you’re too old

No, you don’t have enough experience

No, you’re just not good enough


STOP! Hit the delete button! And try this:

Switch immediately to the Wonder Woman pose, with your hands on your hips, and hold that pose for one minute. It may sound silly but it works. It will give you a sense of power and control, and above all, you will begin to regain your self-confidence.

Then, just like Oprah, Seinfeld and Rowling, you will find the courage to keep moving forward and find the strength to reinvent yourself.  It’s a great way to discover a new you – ready to conquer the world!

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