Fairy Tale Formula

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In my “How to Get Back on Your Feet” series, I’m going to share with you a fourth technique that helped me regain my confidence and believe in myself once again

Actually, this is more of a formula than a technique.  Once you fill in the blanks, it can help you rewrite your story whenever you are having a bad day – or a bad year.

I found this formula during a time when my life was a mess.  I wish I could remember where I discovered it, but everything back then was such a blur.  I just don’t know who to give credit to. So the next best thing I can do is pay it forward, and hope it will help someone else the way it helped me.

The formula goes like this:

Once upon a time there was:

Every day:

One day:

Because of that:

Because of that:

Until finally:

Now that I’ve totally confused you, let me give you an example of how this can actually be used. Remember, this was about seven years ago and my life had been turned upside down. I had no idea where I was going or how I was going to get there.

Then I saw this formula.   I thought: “What the heck – what can I lose?”

So I sat down with a pen and let my mind wander to where I wanted to be, filled in the blanks, and this is what I came up with:

Once upon a time, there was: A young woman who thought she had it all.  A loving mate, a beautiful house, and all the riches she could ask for.

Every day: She felt loved and safe and protected.

One day: Her mate left and she lost everything.  She couldn’t breathe. She didn’t know how to move forward.  She was lost and alone.

Because of that: She slowly discovered parts of herself she never knew existed.  She found her voice. 

Because of that: She found a career she is passionate about.  One that helped her to heal and one that helps others to heal as well.

Until Finally: She was able to trust and love again.  This time she has a loving husband instead of a mate.  She has a beautiful home instead of a house.  And she has discovered riches inside of her that are beyond her wildest dreams.

Now, here we are seven years later.   For those of you who know me, you might be feeling the same goose bumps I’m feeling right now – because this is actually the story of my life today.  Everything I lost a few years ago has now been transformed into my new career as a Professional Speaker, a new husband (that I met online, by the way), and a new home in Middleton, WI.  Reading my words so many years later was actually a bit scary and so, so rejuvenating.

So, if you’re feeling up to it, give the formula a try.  It’s fun to see what you will write when you are not busy trying analyze and control your future.

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Lessons Learned From the Big Stage: #3 Extend a Hand


I learned so many lessons from competing in the International Speech Contest, and I promised to share three with you through my blogs. Well, today it’s time for the third and final insight.

It’s really hard to pick only three. So I know there will be future blogs with more lessons learned, but for now, here it is – the most powerful “aha moment” I had throughout my six month journey to the big stage.


Reach out to help others…
Pay it forward…
Turn around to extend a hand…

However you want to phrase it. I’m sure this is nothing new for you. In fact, I’m sure you’ve heard this many times before. But for me, this was the first time I could actually feel it in my soul. The first time that I got chills when I thought about giving back.

I continue to be amazed at the outpouring of support I received. There were so many people, some that I barely knew, who spent their time and energy to help me craft the perfect speech for the contest. They truly wanted me to succeed and would do whatever they could to help me along the way.

So now it’s my turn. To turn around, extend my hand, and pull others up that hill that sometimes seems so steep and so daunting. It’s now my turn to pay it forward and offer my expertise, time and energy to do what I can to make someone else’s life a little easier.

And I have to admit, it’s a good feeling. It almost feels like there’s a wave rising up inside of me, waiting to burst forth simply for the pure joy of giving.

I really wanted to end this blog with an inspirational quote that captures the impact of giving back, but I couldn’t find any.  Do you have one you can share?  Think of it as a small way of “giving back.”


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