â€œHow are you?â€
That seems to be the standard answer these days. At a time of instant everything â€“ emails, text, twitter, facebook, instagram, and a whole bunch more – we have all become so overwhelmed and we struggle just to keep up.Â We are busier now than ever before.
So when I decided to spend the day with my big brother, my first thought was:
YIKES!!! I donâ€™t know if I can do this.Â I just donâ€™t have the time.
And thatâ€™s when I remembered the saying that goes something like this â€“ no one ever goes to their grave wishing they had spent more time at work.
Itâ€™s so easy to say, but so, so hard to live by.
Many years ago when my mother was still alive, I would visit her weekly.Â Â But every time I entered her room, the first thing out of my mouth was to tell her when I had to leave:
â€œMom, I have to leave by noon to meet with a clientâ€.
â€œMom, I have to leave by 4:00 to avoid the rush hour trafficâ€.
Even though we were chatting and laughing and enjoying our time together, I always kept one eye on the clock.
Well, you know what? My mom is gone now and I can never visit her again.Â And the sad thing is – I canâ€™t even remember who that client was or what was so important that I couldnâ€™t stay just a little longer with my mom.
So today, as I drive to the southwest suburbs of Chicago to visit my brother, I decide not to repeat the same mistake. Today I take a deep breath, shut off my computer, and decide not to look at the clock, or even my phoneâ€“ not even once.Â Today I will enjoy the time we have together, creating laughter and memories that will last me until the end of my time.
I donâ€™t have any words of wisdom for you, and I donâ€™t have any secrets to share. Just an acknowledgment that it is hard to carve out the time for everything we need to do -Â it is a conscience decision.Â You just have to decide what is important to you â€“ and you will find you own way.