Have you ever wanted a do-over? Have you ever wanted to reverse a decision that didn’t turn out exactly the way you planned?
Well, keep reading. This next lesson may help you look at those decisions a little differently.
This technique I learned through a combination of reading motivational books, watching inspirational movies, and meeting some of the greatest people EVER!!!
I admit I’ve made a bunch of decisions that didn’t go as planned. I found that I was beating myself up each and every day, blaming myself for what went wrong. I knew I had to find a new way to look at those decisions. I had to find a way to accept them.
So I started thinking back to the time when I actually made those choices. What was really going on in my life? What information did I have? And I realized that I never intentionally made a bad decision. I don’t think any of us do. I believe that we all make the best decision we can at the time with the information we have.
Let me give you an example:
At one point in my life, I had a business partner and we invested in real estate. It was 2006 and the Florida market was hot. You couldn’t lose! We had this brilliant idea to sell all our property in Chicago and reinvest it in Florida. The plan was to make enough money so we could retire early. We did all the research – we met with realtors, bankers, and attorneys. It was a great decision.
Well, we all know how that turned out. I lost everything. For years I beat myself up over that decision. But as I take time to reflect and look back at that situation, I realize that I did all my research and I actually made the best decision I could with the information I had.
Would I make the same decision today? Absolutely not! But at the time, it was a good decision. I just couldn’t predict the future.
So stop beating yourself up over things that didn’t go quite right in your life. Look back to the time when you made that decision. You may just realize that it was the best thing for you at that time.
If you are holding on to any regrets, if you are beating yourself up over something you did or didn’t do, say or didn’t say, let it go. You can’t move forward if you are still holding on to the past. Give yourself a break and know that you made the best decision you could at the time with the information you had.
This is a new day – a chance to make new choices.