“She drives me CRAZY!”
Do you know anyone like that? Someone who annoys the beejeebies out of you? Maybe they’re arrogant, maybe they only talk about themselves, or maybe they are so overly bubbly that you just want to smack them!
We’ve all known someone like that, and a few days ago I was talking to my good friend Paul, complaining about someone who just rubbed me the wrong way. He listened patiently, then kindly, gently replied:
“What if you look at that annoying person with a fresh perspective? Look for her strengths and focus on those. Instead of adopting and internalizing what she says, try to adapt it and see how you can use it to become a better person.”
Now there’s an idea!!!
I never thought of it that way. After all, we each have our own story, our own struggles. And I believe that many times those annoying habits are a result of protecting ourselves from the pain we have suffered in the past – overcompensating in some way.
So I’ve decided to test Paul’s theory and the next time I encounter that annoying, arrogant, bubbly person, I’m going to look for their strengths and focus on that. I don’t know if it will work because I haven’t tried it yet, but it’s worth a shot. And if you get to test out this theory before I do, please share your experiences with us. We can all learn from each other.
And in the meantime, let’s hope that we aren’t one of those annoying people that others are talking about!!!