“Why are you trying so hard to fit in, when you’re born to stand out.” Ian Wallace
There are so many times in my life when I was afraid to stand out; when I conformed to be like everyone else. And in the process, I lost myself. I no longer knew who I really was.
It’s taken many years of experiences, triumphs and challenges to finally be comfortable with the person I am today. Through that journey, I have learned to embrace my flaws and celebrate my strengths. And isn’t it funny – they have both changed over the years. Those traits I viewed as flaws in my twenties have suddenly become my shining moments today.
When I was much younger, I did not take criticism well. In fact, I got quite defensive, annoyed and aggravated. But today, I actually seek it out. Of course, I’m talking about constructive criticism. Actually, with my business as a Professional Speaker, I need to know what my flaws are so I can get better and better in my profession.
Now I’d be lying if I said it was as easy in my personal life, but I am much more accepting of what people have to say, both good and bad. The key is to always take a hard look at WHO is giving the advice. Then I take a moment – or two – to absorb it and decide if I agree. Maybe I’ll use their advice, and maybe I won’t.
Today, I still work hard at remaining true to myself. Most of the time I can feel it in my gut. You know what I mean; you can usually tell if something is right for you. That’s when I picture the little ducks in a row and see the one that stands out. I like to picture myself as that true-to-yourself person, no matter how hard it may get.