So here’s the third lesson in this series on surviving the challenges that life sometimes throws your way.
This technique I actually learned from a movie. It helped me develop a positive attitude so I could rebuild my confidence and believe in myself once again.
Have you ever seen the movie Miracle on Ice? It’s a true story about the 1980 winter Olympics. At that time, the men’s US hockey team was competing against the Soviet Union. They needed to beat the Soviet Union to ultimately win the gold medal. Now, at that time, the US team didn’t have the money or the facilities to match the Soviet Union, who had already won several gold medals in previous Olympic Games. The Soviet Union was favored to win, hands down.
As I was watching this movie, there was a scene where the US coach, Herb Brooks, was in the locker room with his team. He looked at them and said: “9 out of 10 times, they will win, but not today.”
That one line made me sit up and take notice. I loved it! So I filed it in my memory for future use.
Now, at that time in my life, I was looking for a job. I had just landed an interview for a management position with Bloomingdales in Chicago. I had management experience, but never in retail. So before the interview, I researched and prepared everything I could on the position and the company. I was totally ready.
Then, on the day of the interview, I walked in, looked around, and noticed that I was surrounded by my competition. Everybody, and I do mean everybody, was a lot younger than me and had a lot more experience in retail.
That’s when my inner voice kicked in and started pecking away at me. You know what I mean.
I started telling myself: “Nancy, you’re never going to get this job. You’re too old. You don’t have enough experience.” And I started all that self doubt in my own head.
And that’s when I remembered that phrase from the movie. I stopped, looked around at my competition and I said to myself: “9 out of 10 times, they will get the job, but not today.”
I went into that interview with so much confidence they couldn’t help but hire me. Now, did that one phrase alone get me the job? No! But I’ll tell you what it did do – it gave me the confidence to walk into that room and give the best interview I could possibly give. I didn’t doubt myself or allow anyone else to doubt my ability. I didn’t give my power to somebody else. I had control.
So, you never know when that one line can help – maybe you’re going to an interview, getting ready for a presentation, or facing a family gathering. Whenever you find yourself in a situation where negative thoughts are coming from your own head, or from other people surrounding you, stop, and tell yourself:
“ 9 out of 10 times that will happen, but not today.”
It will help change your mindset so you can believe in yourself once again. It sure helped me.
Stay tuned next week for another life lesson learned.