When You Are Pulled in Different Directions

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There are times in our life when we all feel overworked, overwhelmed and pulled in different directions. Sometimes this can even happen on a daily basis. If you often find yourself in a tizzy, here’s something you can do to overcome that feeling of spinning out of control:

Pause     Breathe      Gather Your Thoughts

Yep, that’s it. Take time to consciously pause and physically take a breath. It gives you time to gather your thoughts and stops you from reacting emotionally. It helps you look at the situation a little more logically. We’ve all been faced with a challenge where we reacted in the moment and said or did something we wish we could take back. I’m telling you, this simple formula can help. The next time you find yourself feeling anxious or like you are about to regret what comes out of your mouth, Pause, Breathe and Gather your Thoughts.

I understand that this will be difficult when you face an intense moment, but with practice it becomes easier and easier. With practice, you actually begin to form a new habit that will help make your life a lot easier. Give it a try and see how it works for you.

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Finding Balance

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Have you ever been consumed by your thoughts? Maybe life unexpectedly threw you a curve ball and you suddenly found yourself in a situation that you just didn’t want to deal with. It could be a lost job, a health scare, or a relationship that ended.

Before you know it, you are questioning everything about your life and you feel like you’ve lost control. How do you get it back? How do you take control once again? There are times when you may feel like quitting everything – your job, your relationship, even your belief in yourself.

So, what’s the next logical thing to do? Come on, let’s be honest. For many of us, we try to fill that void; we try to mask that loss. We do whatever we can to dull the pain. Think about it: If you lose your job, you might try to fill that void by spending more time with your spouse. If your relationship goes south, you try to replace it with more work or exercise. And what if a good friendship just fizzles out – well, you can always spend more time with your significant other.

We’ve all tried to fill these voids in one way or another, but the bottom line is that it never works. Balance is the key word here. I know you’re heard it a million times, and there’s a good reason for that – it works! If we could just find the right amount of time and energy to allocate to all aspects of life, we can learn to quiet and control those voices in our head. Just know that it’s ok to feel lonely; it’s ok to face disappointment and loss. Balance in your life will help even out the those ups and downs. It helps restore the calm.

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One Day at a Time

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Bad habits are hard to break, no matter what your vice may be. Why? Because they can be so much fun. Think about it. Isn’t it easier to sit on the couch, watch your favorite show and devour a box of chocolates rather than get dressed, face the cold weather and drag yourself to the gym? Be honest.

Eventually, though, we all pay the price for those bad habits, whether it’s failing health or finding ourselves in another bad relationship. It’s time to take control; it’s time to bite the bullet and do what we need to do. And yes, we already know what that is.

It sounds simple but it’s not easy. It’s not easy because you are the only one who can do this. You can’t hire someone else to make this change for you. Forming a new habit is hard and it will take time. You certainly won’t see the results immediately so the best thing you can do is concentrate on today and today only. Force yourself not to fret about yesterday because that is over. There is nothing you can do about that. Every day remind yourself that if you falter, you will just start over again tomorrow. By encouraging yourself, you will make it a better day. And you know what? Pretty soon those days will add up to weeks, then months, and then years – and a new habit is formed. All by taking it one day at a time – that’s how I plan on doing it.

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It Starts Today

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When will they stop? When will the voices stop screaming inside my head:

You’re not smart enough for that promotion

You’re not thin enough to get into those jeans

You’re not good enough to be happy

After some time, you tell yourself that you don’t care anymore, but you do care – I care! You ask yourself: “When are you going to be OK? When are you going to accept and love yourself for who you are?

I’ve been trying to lose five pounds for the last 30 years. Uh, maybe more like 15 pounds now. Every time I try to zip up those pants it’s a blatant reminder that my body is changing. And once again I beat myself up – And boy, am I really good at that.

So, I ask you again: When are you going to be ok?

TODAY!!!

That’s the answer. I’m going to be ok TODAY! I’ve wasted enough time worrying about things that don’t really matter and I’ve had enough. Would I like to change some things about myself? Absolutely. But I’ve also come to realize that I’m good just the way I am right now. That I am happy for all the dents and flaws I’ve earned over the years. So I declare, right now, that today is the day I begin to love myself the way I am. When will you begin?

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Oh What a Night…

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How do I even begin? What words can I use to describe what I am feeling right now?

You see, last Saturday was my birthday, and it was a BIG one. The day started out lovely, with lots of phone calls and texts from family and friends. They were all very sweet, but everyone had busy schedules and could not take the time to celebrate my special day with me. They all wished me well.

Then my husband said: “You have to be ready by 10:30 this morning.” I thought we were heading to one of the beautiful trails close-by, so I grabbed my tennis shoes.

Then suddenly, without notice, three of my friends walked in the door holding a huge balloon, crazy whimsical glasses, and big smiles. They drove all the way from Chicago – three hours away – just to see me. I let out a scream so loud I even scared myself.

Then one by one more people walked through the door. There were old friends and new friends and family and neighbors. They just kept coming. I later discovered that my husband had been planning this event for the last six months. I can’t believe everyone was able to keep it a secret.

It was a day I will never forget. I was surrounded by a love so thick you could feel it. I sincerely have never experienced anything like this. How did I get so lucky? How did I find such amazing friends and develop such deep bonds with my family? My only hope is that I can pay it forward and make others feel as loved and special as I feel right now.

A heartfelt thank you to my husband for making my life so rich and beautiful.

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