Pamper Your Inner Diva (or Divo)

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You’ve heard it over and over again – Take care of yourself first so you have the strength and energy to take care of others.  There have been books written, songs sung and poems read about this topic.  Even the airlines announce in their safety tips: put on your oxygen mask first before assisting anyone else.

We all know it’s important, yet so very hard to do.  Why?  How can we learn to pamper ourselves without feeling guilty?

Well, if you have a tendency to take care of everyone else first, putting yourself last, try this:

Start small.  Take just a few minutes each day for yourself.  Pick one thing you like to do.  Something simple like drink a cup of coffee, read a book, listen to music.  Notice that I said take “just a few minutes,” so before you start shouting: I DON’T HAVE THE TIME, think about just 5minutes.  That’s it – nothing more.  5 minutes is long enough to hear one song or read a couple of pages or just sit quietly and do nothing.  Try it for one week.  Then, if you feel comfortable with that, add a couple more minutes onto your “me” time each week.  If that’s too much, then scale back and add a couple of minutes each month.

The point is to carve out just a little time for yourself and do something you love to do.  And no, that doesn’t mean folding the laundry or planning tomorrow’s meals.  This is time for you and you alone – no one else.

Out of 1,440 minutes in each and every day, I bet you can find just 5 for yourself.  Thinks about it; give it a try.  Put on your Diva Cape and set the timer for 5 minutes!

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Tick-Tock Tick-Tock

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My good friend’s father just passed away unexpectedly.  He was only 72 years old.  This really hit me hard because I have two brothers who are older than 72.  And I wondered:

What if I knew they had only a short time to live?  Would I do anything differently?  Would I spend more time with them?

The obvious answer is “yes.”  But I wasn’t so quick to come to that conclusion.  What really came to mind was to spend intense time with them, not necessarily more time.  When we are together, I’d like to do more of the things they want to do, listen more intensely to the stories they want to tell, spend more time in their world.  I’d like to hug a little longer and actually say the words: “I love you.”

It’s not always that easy.  We all get caught up in our own worlds, our own challenges.  And in this day of instant everything, we feel pressured to get more done.  Something is always ringing, buzzing or dinging, demanding our attention.  It seems impossible to shut off all the sounds and the alarms that demand our time.

So this week when I visited my brother, I listened more intensely to his golf stories, laughed a little longer at the video he wanted to share with me, and put down my phone to look at pictures of his grand kids.  I doubt if he noticed any difference, but I feel comfort in knowing that I was more aware of the time we shared.  And more grateful I had another memory I could tuck away for future reference.

I am truly sorry for my friend’s loss.  I have no words to console her – only time can do that.  Soon her tears will be replaced with smiles of the memories she shared with her father.  And now, I too will have more intense memories of the ones I love.

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Shake it Up

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Every day starts out the same:

  • Wake up
  • Shower
  • Eat breakfast
  • Head to the office

Or something similar!

What if you did something today to spice it up?  Something out of the ordinary?  Something that would not  compromise you or your goal at the end of the day, but add a little spontaneity to it.

Here’s what happened to me this afternoon.  At first I was a little skeptical but I did it anyway.  Let’s see what you think.

I had an appointment at noon with a client I’ve been working with for several months now.  We were finalizing some details on a presentation I’m giving at her upcoming conference.  We had scheduled a specific time at her office, our usual meeting place. But today the sun was shining, the sky was blue and there was live music playing outside on the Capitol Square (in Madison, WI).

Taking a chance, I said: “What about hammering out the details as we sit outside, under the sun, listening to the music in the background.  What about shaking it up a bit today?”

She agreed – and it was perfect!  Instead of sitting inside a stuffy office we actually took care of the same business in a different surrounding.  I think we actually created a stronger bond between us.

So, for your next meeting, what about suggesting a walk or listening to local music or anything in your town that may be a little out of the ordinary. It’s no different than discussing business on the golf course, and since I don’t golf, I’ve just found another venue.

Now, to be clear, I would NOT suggest this with a new client or if the details of the meeting require a more structured environment.  You have to use your judgment and decide which clients and which situations would be a good fit. But what the heck, give it a try.  Shake it up a little.

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